i cant take this motherhood anymore

[dora the ex...]

i really feel at my end im not sure what to do but i just need to talk my 3yr old has been the child from hell today all day ive listened to her screaming and being a complete sh!te making a complete shite hole of my house inbetween amy has cried all day with trapped wind then 3.30 comes my 7yr old decides to pick up where she left off with her 13yr old attitude that she started last night i just can cope ive sat up stairs crying on and off all day im just loosing it i want to leave them all behind,that sounds really bad i know but i just cant take much more i feel like crap my head/ears throat are killing me ive just had it i told my hubby i feel like leaving all of them behind but ive no where to go i need to get away from them all just for abit im sick of listening to them allday long then being up all night with amy ive had no sleep hardly for 2and half weeks i look and feel shite i really dont know what to do ive no one to talk to i feel all on my own if i talk to my hubby im likely to start a row i just feel so tense i want to just get away from it all for a little bit or even forever..someone talk to me and help me please thank you for reading xx carrie x

[shamu]

Oh hun
:big hug smiley that doesn't exist:
Can you run yourself a bath and let DH do the evening duty? turn the lights down and relax in there. Turn off the computer as that has a way of winding us up too ;)
Then either go straight to bed (no matter how early it is) or watch a cr@ppy DVD/TV for a wee while and go to bed by 10.
The kids are no doubt testing the boundaries - they want to see you snap (don't ask why, I've no idea but it's a well known phenomenon) and you need some space so you can calm down and don't snap.
Tomorrow is another day and it WILL get better.
Am posting now so you can read and reply
Shamu
;-)

[*Fallen Angel*]

Hugs Dora.

Great advice from Shamu there hun.

Here for you if you need us
xxx

[Azana]

Looks like you have indeed been a victim of the "kid radar" that means as Shamu says they know EXACTLY when to push all the wrong buttons. I can't even imagine coping with 3 - but would imagine things would feel a lot better with a night of sleep - I know how evil sleep deprivation is...anyway you can get some sleep????? Hope tomorrow is a better day

A x

[Bananatree]

Oh hun, Dont really know what to say apart from lots of hugs !!
My msn is on my profile(in a sec anyway !!) if you want to add me and chat.
Is there any way you can get away for a night? Anyone that can babysit for a few hours to get you away?
You have probably considered these options but thought they might be worth mentioning.
Maybe you should speak to you HB about it- if you are really struggling then speak to him- even if you are rowing- at leats he will know how you feel.
Are you on any medication? Have you spoken to your HV about how you are feeling?

Hope something might be of use but hugs if not.

[Biba]

Aww Dora massive :hugs: it does sound like a day from hell and we have all had them that whats so great about Damsels a massive hug from 100's of friends when you need one. Shamu has got some great advice there, and tomorrow is another day and hopefully not as bad as today!

[Elle Driver]

as az said, i can't imagine the hard work and emotional stress THREE brings so hats off to you honey, really :hug:
i had the day from hell on monday and probably cried non stop for about 4 hours in the morning. getting out in the fresh air and letting ruby run ragged and wear herself out at the park really, really helped.
sleep deprivation is like torture, everything sseems so much more desperate and its so hard not to feel like shutting the door on it and running away, or screaming at them :o :(
hope tomorrow is better for you, as a fellow bawler this week this hugs coming straight from the heart xxxxxxxxxxx

[Elle Driver]

as az said, i can't imagine the hard work and emotional stress THREE brings so hats off to you honey, really :hug:
i had the day from hell on monday and probably cried non stop for about 4 hours in the morning. getting out in the fresh air and letting ruby run ragged and wear herself out at the park really, really helped.
sleep deprivation is like torture, everything sseems so much more desperate and its so hard not to feel like shutting the door on it and running away, or screaming at them :o :(
hope tomorrow is better for you, as a fellow bawler this week, this hug's coming straight from the heart xxxxxxxxxxx

[miss.understood]

hey hun really hope your ok, big hugs for you and anytime you fancy a trip down to bognor come south and see us ;-) that will be enough to send anyone completly insane lol.

[Jamtart]

oh babes!!! Im sorry you have had a crappy day... you know where I am if you want to chat, I will be on msn all night or PM me!

[Cherrylips]

Dora, I can only imagine how tough it is with 3 kiddies.

Im ripping my hair out half the time with my 2. Its berluddy hard work.

You are doing a fab job hun, and they all love you. But they are kids just being kids.

My Tash today took a whole roll of loo roll off the ring thingy, put it under the tap and it was EVERYWHERE !! She has woken Jay almost every time he has napped. Little bloody monkey.

We are all here for you hun, so dont run away, just run to us.

If you EVER need me I will try and be there for you Carrie. PM me how to get to yours from Manchester and I will try and get there hun and give you a breather. I know you arent too far are you?
I will let the kids drive me mad, and you can go out, get your hair done, or simply go lie in the bath !

PM me if you need to chik,

Love lots,
Cherry xxxx

[goldilocks]

Oh hun, life just isnt fair sometimes is it? You need some time out. Is there anyone who could help you with the kids for a few hours? You really do need to talk to your dh if you can. He should be supporting you through this. Could he maybe be persuaded to do the night duty for you? If youre worried about rowing then how about writing down how you feel for him to read. I always find that really theraputic. It may help.

I'd be there like a shot to help out if you werent so far away.

I hope you feel better soon.

PM me anytime if you want to vent. We're all here for you!

Lyn
xxx

[Amethyst]

Sorry to hear you`re having a bad time of things:hugs: :hugs: .

Amethyst x:)

[Superkat]

Soory to hear your having a bad day dora, I hope your ok.Not much to add t what the others have said just wanted to give you a ((((hug))))

[Pancake01]

Go and have a long bath and tell hubby to give Amy her bottle. I hope you have a good night, and that tomorrow is a better day. :hug:

[Princess Fiona]

You've been given some great advice and i don't feel i can add to it Carrie but i just wanted to send you a virtual hug and say i hope you're feeling better hon xxx

[Our lass]

I didn't see this til this morning but I hope you're feeling better today Dora. Kids always play up at once, god knows why, but you'll get through it. Try and get out of the house and enjoy the spring air, it'll make you feel so much better and hopefully tire the little ones out. I've had a few problems with my 9 year old since having Cerys- she goes a bit doolally now and then, usually 'cos she misses me. Once I make a special effort to chat/play with her she's back to her normal self. Try and get your OH to help out with Amy in the evenings so that you have a bit more time for the other 2 and yourself, of course.

[tekkencat]

sending you lots of virtual hugs/chocs and flowers - today is a new day

TC
xx

[Mad Madam Mim]

Sweetheart I don't know how they know when you're at your lowest ebb but they do.

Can hubbie help out a little and give you a rest so you can have a sleep/relax. It's horrible when you feel ill and they are playing up. If you can soe space will do you good. I hope your HB can help.

Big hugs though - we all know what it's like (and I only have one!!) I think you're doing a great job with 3 (and a 7 year old girl - bet that's hard work since they are growing up so fast these days).

Deep breaths and I hope you feel better soon

Mim x

[dora the ex...]

afternoon
im back thank you all for your messages and stuff it means alot to me,well ive just got home after i posted i could really take much more i was so fed up and down..still am just calmed down a touch and ready for today..i went to my dads who is away and lives over the road from us so not to far away i went there had a bottle of wine,took the phone off the hook switched off my mobile and cut my self away from everyone for a whole evening...how hard was that!!! bloody hard...anyway ive just returned home thinking ill let him stu for abit with the girls take chloe to school who is the main brunt.. ive come home and there is a note to say he's gone shopping at tesco's.. so thought id sign in let you know im still here and alive...just
thank you again...shamu,cherry,missu all of you in fact you are all fab xxx luv ya all xx

[shamu]

Have been thinking about you chick :D
I think you did the right thing - you'll feel much better for it in the long run and the house hasn't fallen down while you were away ;)
Thanks for letting us know you're OK
No doubt I'll be posting similar threads in, ooh, about 5 weeks time ;) :o
Take care
Shamu
;-)

[dora the ex...]

Have been thinking about you chick :D
I think you did the right thing - you'll feel much better for it in the long run and the house hasn't fallen down while you were away ;)
Thanks for letting us know you're OK
No doubt I'll be posting similar threads in, ooh, about 5 weeks time ;) :o
Take care
Shamu
;-)



thank you again so much.... i sometimes wish ....well i really dont know what im doing sometimes...im that tired i feel im just running on auto... my body is just plodding along on the go im sure sooner or later it will just cave..im 27 and i feel 127 this morning...
see what happens when chloe gets home..they all just seem to bounce off each other and start..

[dora the ex...]

You have my deepest sympathies as a fellow mum of three. When one starts they all start at the moment - it really can feel like hell on earth sometimes.

My eldest has the big attitude problem at the mo too and it drives me insane!

I hope that it begins to improve for you soon and remember when you need to talk then come on here and do so - it will help your sanity

lots of love

Spacedust
xxxxxxxxxxx

how old are yours???

[*Fallen Angel*]

Good for you getting away Dora.

I can't pretend to know how hard it is, I struggle with one child. But you can pm me anytime, or we can chat on msn, I usually here!

xxx

[dora the ex...]

9 and a half, going on 18 :rollseyes:
Nearly 6
and nearly 2 and a half

Deep joy

Well actually most of the time yes but sometimes I could absolutely scream

S
xxxx


so similar i have step daughter at weekends 10,chloe 7,beth just 3 and amy 19wks

[Adelelee]

Oh Dora, huge hugs to you hunny

Excellent advice from Shamu (as always!!), you need somehow to have time to yourself, you are a fab mummy but I can just imagine how much it must get to you sometimes having three!!!!

Have you a closeby friend or rellie who could help out for the odd afternoon at all??

Thinking of you

Adele
xx

[dora the ex...]

Good for you getting away Dora.

I can't pretend to know how hard it is, I struggle with one child. But you can pm me anytime, or we can chat on msn, I usually here!

xxx


thank you hun xx :ellie:

[dora the ex...]

Oh Dora, huge hugs to you hunny

Excellent advice from Shamu (as always!!), you need somehow to have time to yourself, you are a fab mummy but I can just imagine how much it must get to you sometimes having three!!!!

Have you a closeby friend or rellie who could help out for the odd afternoon at all??

Thinking of you

Adele
xx

nope ive no one i think its even harder cause my mums not here she used to help a little even if to make tea or take them for a walk now i have to do everything myself..im kinda struggling..can you tell...at least i know now i can talk to you ladies..you have made me feel so much better with the advice you given to me thank you again xx

[Cherrylips]

Sounds like you needed that night off Carrie. Good on you for doing it !!

Really lovely to see you back today hun, take care and keep posting to us when you need to!!

You are doing a fab job, but no-one said it was an easy job. Stay well babes, thinking of you lots.

Love Cherry x

[dora the ex...]

Sounds like you needed that night off Carrie. Good on you for doing it !!

Really lovely to see you back today hun, take care and keep posting to us when you need to!!

You are doing a fab job, but no-one said it was an easy job. Stay well babes, thinking of you lots.

Love Cherry x

thank you so much x

[MrsGucci]

Hi Carrie,

Only saw this just now, I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time of it! :( I think you're doing a blooming amazing job with three young children! I have an 'easy' baby and even she drives me to distraction sometimes!

I was thinking, are there any baby and toddler groups you could go to and take Beth and Amy? It might be nice to get out and let Beth play with other kids and you have some contact with other mums and maybe start some friendships that way? I'm terrible in that I'm really shy but I've forced myself to get out into the 'real' world and meet people and I've made a couple of really good friends out of it which is nice.

I know I'm cr*p about my MSN saying I'm online when I'm not but I am trying to set it to Away when I'm not here so please chat to me if I look like I'm online and you need to talk.

Big Hugs to you!

Sal
xxx

[dora the ex...]

Hi Carrie,

Only saw this just now, I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time of it! :( I think you're doing a blooming amazing job with three young children! I have an 'easy' baby and even she drives me to distraction sometimes!

I was thinking, are there any baby and toddler groups you could go to and take Beth and Amy? It might be nice to get out and let Beth play with other kids and you have some contact with other mums and maybe start some friendships that way? I'm terrible in that I'm really shy but I've forced myself to get out into the 'real' world and meet people and I've made a couple of really good friends out of it which is nice.

I know I'm cr*p about my MSN saying I'm online when I'm not but I am trying to set it to Away when I'm not here so please chat to me if I look like I'm online and you need to talk.

Big Hugs to you!

Sal
xxx


thank you sal x

[goldilocks]

Glad youre feeling a bit better.Good for you for taking yourself off for a bit. Bet that wine tasted sooo good!

Keep smiling hun, youre an ace mummy!

Lyn
xxx

[dora the ex...]

Glad youre feeling a bit better.Good for you for taking yourself off for a bit. Bet that wine tasted sooo good!

Keep smiling hun, youre an ace mummy!

Lyn
xxx

cheers i dont think it touched the sides it was straight down the hatch:lol:

[Cherrylips]

Hay Carrie,
If your dads house is ever free again on a Saturday night, let me know. Hubby will have my 2 and I will come join you for a night off, bottle of wine (or 3!) and a good old gossip !! :-)

[dora the ex...]

Hay Carrie,
If your dads house is ever free again on a Saturday night, let me know. Hubby will have my 2 and I will come join you for a night off, bottle of wine (or 3!) and a good old gossip !! :-)

aww thats a shame he's home tomorrow...ill let you know next time..:kiss: whens ur b/day? ive read somewhere ur going away?

[Cherrylips]

My b.day is 6th May hun.

We go away to Lincolnshire, one of the Haven Holiday Sites, on the 5th till the 8th.

Cannot believe I am gonna be 31 !!!! haha.

[dora the ex...]

My b.day is 6th May hun.

We go away to Lincolnshire, one of the Haven Holiday Sites, on the 5th till the 8th.

Cannot believe I am gonna be 31 !!!! haha.

aww you dont look it ...

[Cherrylips]

No, I don't think i do either hun.

I look 41 !! Heeeeeeeeeeheeeeeeeeeeee xx

[dora the ex...]

No, I don't think i do either hun.

I look 41 !! Heeeeeeeeeeheeeeeeeeeeee xx

aww stop putting yourself down you are fab and look fantastic :flowers: :grin:

[Cherrypie]

Dora
so sorry you've had a crap day. It's so true that kids know how to press our buttons. But I wish someone would explain why they have to do it all together! Can't they arrange some rota system??

Glad you're feeling more on track. Take care. xxx