dealing with weight gain

[bisy backson]

ok, well i know i've done it before, and i know its part of being pregnant, but for some reason i'm finding it really hard to deal with the weight gain.

i know that a lot of it is down to not eating properly, and not exercising as much as i should but i'm sooooo tired, its coming into winter here & i just can't face any more fruit!

is anyone else finding it hard to accept? and does anyone have any coping strategies?

i just feel like a big round flump, and even though i know i will lose it all again i just don't know how to deal with the knowledge that in the next few months i'll only get bigger, particularly if i don't do something about it.



sorry, i know its self indulgent, and i know i keep going on about it and there are far far worse things in life, but still, just wanted to vent to people who might understand, or at the very least sympathise

bbxx

[shamu]

Didn't want to read and not post but I'm the opposite :o
As a rather "large" person it's actually quite nice not to have to justify my weight etc although I have been much more careful this time round and haven't put on much weight at all.
But it's not unusual to feel a bit :( about the weight gain - lots of women do. Just important to acknowledge the fact that the majority of it is baby/placenta/amniotic fluid/increased blood circulating through your body etc etc etc.
:hugs:
Shamu
;-)

[Lois Lane]

Last time I wasn't that bothered - thought it was part of being pregnant. This time around however I am getting anxious about it. As Shamu says, I am also a 'big' girl and I am already at the weight I was when I was 9 months pg with P!!! So I am bracing myself for being at my lifetime's heaviest at the end of this pregnancy. I put on 1.5 stone last time (only aided by the fact I had terrible m/s for the first 20 weeks)

I don't have any coping strategies except that this time I am determined to try harder to shift the weight after the birth.

((((hugs)))) to you BB xx

[Sugarpop]

I'm with you on this! I have put on 21lbs to date and I hate everyone of them! I really shouldn't weigh myself because it only makes me feel worse!Last Saturday I cried because I looked so fat, I really can't come to terms with the thought that there is a baby in there and it isn't all me! To make it worse because I am tall my bump is low down so it is all on my lower belly making me look fatter!

I have stopped eating a lot of the rubbish I was consuming (especially the chocolate and coke!) but it is so difficult, I have been trying to fend off the Mars Bar craving all afternoon! Also,I still can't eat fruit and vegetables which doesn't help!

I am going shopping on Saturday to buy some new clothes to make me feel a bit better (I am a size smaller in maternity clothes because it was only my belly that was big before and now that bit is now elasticated I can wear a size 12 and sometimes even a size 10 - how long I have waited for this day!) but that happiness only lasts until I look into a mirror or try a size 18 toop that doesn't fit because my boobs are so huge!

As much I hate to say this (and become one of those knowing evil people!) no matter what you do you will get bigger anyway! Just count the days until the baby is out and you can start the fitness regime in ernest. I am planning to be a size 12 at Christmas, even if I have to live on lettace for 3 months!

[Jamtart]

I have problems dealing with my weight gain, even tho I have only put on 8lbs I see my bump as fat and not a baby :( I have struggled with bulimia in the past (not so long ago past too) so I think I am scared of getting too big again. The reason my bulimia started was because I put on 5.5 stone with Kenidee going from 6st12 (size 6/8) to 12st7 :( (I am only 5'1")

I really am struggling not to put on too much, not for vanity reasons, because I am scared of my bulimia returning before I have even had the baby. I am already starting to struggle with the difference betweeen a bump and fat!

[Shoppie]

I think in truth most people find this hard.

I have gained 2st now, I'll probably be looking at 3 by the time the baby comes. I have also previously been overweight, and I really struggled long and hard ot lose it. I know I *can* lose it, but I also know what b*oody hard work it is - and that's with oinly myself to worry about and going to the gym whenever I want. I worry a lot about fitting in sufficient exercise when baby is here.

The reality is, it IS only 9 months, and even with excellent self-control, it is often impossible to control weight gain - eg if you have MS so you are nibbling to keep it in check.

I don't think there's a magic way of suddenly not caring, just try to do the best you can, and go easy on yurself if you weaken and eat something naughty - you are trying to grow a person, adn both you and the baby deserve a little indulgence :)

[icclebunny]

I purposely didnt weigh myself whilst pregnant and havent since either. Like Jamtart, Ive suffered with an eating disorder since I was 13 til about 20ish. I know that any kind of weight monitoring will result in stave/binge cycles so I avoid it.

I think the worry about putting on weight is more common than women let on. I know for a lot of my pregnancy I felt awful, I hated the way I looked with the extra bump (although weight wise I cant have put a lot on because I was still in my normal size clothing - except my jeans which didnt fit right round the hips)

You are definitely not alone on this one. I found that wearing more comfortable clothing helped - wide legged pants were fab for making me feel better - as were tops that flared out under the bust as it felt more flattering and hid the belly button and stretchmarks :)

[bisy backson]

raaa keep trying to reply to this thread but it keeps booting me out and now i'm all hormonal on top of everything else.

but thanks for all your replies, will respond properly when this site starts behaving!

bbxx

[Adelelee]

I did not weigh myself with Eliza and have not done so this time, I dont really care, I have been all sizes over the years (size 8 up to size 16) and I just think I will deal with it after the baby, if I have the energy:mad:

I think pregnancy is a hard time anyway and you do feel yucky (well I certainly do this time round) and your weight is just one more thing to worry about, but just think of the end result :babycool::babycool:

Hugs to you BB

Adele
xx

[katkinn]

Hon, I can so so so sympathise with you.

Last pg this got me down SO much - and in fact, I hadn't actually remembered how much it did upset me until this pg where it's like fecking groundhog day.

I am expanding at a rate of knots and I am genuinely the same size at 15 weeks as I was at 23 weeks last time. HOW fecking scary is that.

I dread with all my heart to think how huge I'm going to get and how much this will get me down.

And I KNOW (like you said) that I should be really grateful that I'm pg, that it's a good sign, that it's for the good of the baby, that it's not for ever etc etc

BUT that doesn't help the day to day reality of feeling like the sodding goodyear doughy blimp.

All my own fault really as I'm clearly far too vain and obsessed with how I look on a day to day basis. But I LIKE being a size 10 and not having to wear a bra (although I appreciate the years of being braless are swiftly coming to an end!!) and expanding like a fecking balloon on a day to day basis with only a small proportion of it being bump, DOES depress me hugely.

Especially as I'm one of these people who gets pregnant on her hips, her arse, her lovehandles - ie I turn into a pissing weeble.

PLUS I have this sodding hernia which DOUBLES the size of my bump up to under my boobs. Truly scary and truly getting on my tits (mmmmm yes literally)

SO rant over - you're not alone chickie. Shame you don't live nearer and we could go out together and try and out fat each other!!!!!!

If it's any consolation, you'll be back in your pre preg stuff before I've even sprogged!!!!!

katkinn
xxx

[bisy backson]

right hopefully this will work!

anyway, thanks so much for all your replies, and katkinn i would sooooo love to take you up on your offer! (but luckily i've just eaten 3 choc biscuits in a row so that's quelled the urge for a while :wik: ) although if you'd like to pop over here that would be awesome

i don't weigh myself at all at home, except the clinic i go to they make you do it yourself (so i can't really not look) and the doctor takes great delight in telling me how much i weigh down to the last gramme. hmph.

anyway, i think maybe i've slowed down a bit, or at least started to feel a bit more that this size is 'normal', probably helped by the fact that i've already started waddling and can't bend down properly. ie ergo most of it must be :babycool:

anyway, have come out of my slump now and am concentrating on the (shallow i know) positives of myself (ie not counting the obvious one of growing a whole new beauttiful boy) ie my skin is really good, my hair has finally calmed down and soon i won't be able to bend down enough to do the :washing: and :washingline: or reach the :washingup: (i stopped :ironing: when i was pregnant with splash).

so thanks again for your messages, and adele, how the hell have you got so many posts????

big :heartlipstick: to you all

bbxx

[katkinn]

Am I going bonkers??

It says that the last post should have been by Bisy Backson, but I can't see it - am I losing the plot????

[katkinn]

Right - well now that I've posted that - bisy's seems to have appeared - yet I could swear that it wasn't there before.................

(god I need to get out more - as you were ladies!!)

[bisy backson]

i've noticed this too actually, the last advertised post isn't actually the last one you can see on the thread. and not just this one! oooooh, spooky!

bbxx

[Opprobrium]

I was all zen with the weight gain initially, and in a way I still am, even though I've ballooned from 7.5 stone to 13!!!! :o

But it has started bothering me lately. I'm SO big now & nothing is smooth anymore, my arms, legs, bum are all lumpy & my back it really squishy, not sexy at all. The belly doesn't bother me, I like that, but the rest is getting too big now. I'm not too worried about getting my figure back afterwards as I am very prepared to work bloody hard for it & don't actually want to go back down to as skinny as I was anyway, but I would like my old tummy back.

I think the worst thing is that I know DH doesn't fancy me anymore. He's never said it but I can't remember the last time he said he loved my new shape or my boobs or bum or said I was beautiful & I have caught a glimpse of his face occasionally when he thinks I've not seen him but he's been giving my fat bum a look. I've tried to talk to him but of course he's not going to admit it, but it's fairly obvious. I can't say I blame him, if his body changed this dramatically this quickly I'd find it bloody hard to keep up & still find him attractive. Plus my skin is hormonal & foul. And now with the c-section looming I'm not going to be able to shrink back down as quickly as I won't be able to work out for a while... he says he loves me all the time but never that I'm attractive or that he fancies me. But it's giving me even more incentive to get my old hot body back as quickly as I possibly can & even better than it was. By mid Summer I'll be nearly there, by the end of Summer I'll have a body to rival Elle McPherson!!! Rar! Eye of the tiger!!!!! ;)