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Just wondered if any of you have ever ignored Christmas. I would love to do that this year and just spend the day alone with DH eating what we like and doing what we like. I just don't think the Family (particulalry his) would understand.
We can't afford to go away. He did suggest spending Christmas day on our own and then visiting family between Xmas and NY but I think all that would do is just postpone it to another day.
I feel that if I put my foot down I will upset quite a few people but I just don't want to do it this year.
Sorry to post an ick topic in a happy forum!
I tried Janice but ended up doing it a different day instead! We had moved house on 22 December and I was around 30 weeks pregnant. We were surrounded by boxes and conscious that it was our last christmas alone. So of course the rellies decided we'd just celebrate on a different day!:rolleyes:
Bah humbug! It's annoying that we feel duty bound to please everyone isn't it????
Ive never actually cancelled it but Ive threatened to a few times
I cancelled it last year. My due date was 3rd December and in July I said I wasn't going anywhere, seeing anyone or doing anything. In the end, Maisie was early and I would have been capable of seeing people. It was a lovely day though, just the 3 of us. We had our own 'Christmas' and it was great.
we are just spending christmas on our own this year , i'm having probs with my teenage daughter ,
think family brat camp and you get the idea , i'm really not in the mood to play happy familes this year.
but i will pop in and make a breif visit to my mum and dad on boxing day .
think DD will be summoned to go to her side of the family over christmas ,
they dont talk to me :no: after i decided to get married to the best bloke in the world.
funny how her dad and the rest of the family dont bother with her all year much then expect her presence on important family occasions:sigh:
For the past few years I have demanded that OH and I just spend Xmas at home alone, he was happy with that and we just spent the day cooking dinner, watching DVD's, playing games, it was bliss. We then used Boxing Day to visit family. I think that is how it will be from now on.
Do what makes you happy. You can't please everyone else all the time.
There's many a year I would have liked to do that but unless you actually get away for most of the season I would imagine it's hard to do.
That shouldn't stop you from putting your foot down and having Christmas the way you and your DH want.
DH and i have spent a few Christmas days on our own because i simply couldn't face traipsing around for yet another mince pie and small talk.
It probably did upset a few people but i just wanted it to be us.
You have hard a really tough year and if that's what you want to do then i'd do it and if people can't understand that well boo to them.
I think we will end up with TWO christmasses this year btw!!! We are planning to go to my Mum's for actual christmas (all being well with the delivery of our wee christmas bundle!) but then I think DH has agreed with his folks that we do a second christmas with them when we get back!:rolleyes:
Wonder if we could get away with just going away next year and saying SOD IT!!!!
We went to morocco one year - cheap and fab - and we ignored the whole thing.
You are right re the visiting family another day - you end up having christmas but just on another day - happened to us the year dd1 was born, I had had a c-sec on the 3rd but still went to inlaws on 26th and it was hell. I'd say bar leaving the country it is hard to avoid...hope you find a way
I have tried, and failed, to cancel the C-word many times. The happiest Xmases I've had were when Mr Ex and I went to Devon or Cornwall for the holiday and locked ourselves away from all the madness. I even cocked up the lunch arrangements once and we ended up eating beans on toast for Xmas lunch... but it was still fun.
There's no chance of that now with Mr D working in retail and only getting 48 hours off but one day I'll get my own way again :scratchchin:
Kind of this year. I've told OH there's no way I'm going to his parents unless I'm feeling a whole lot better, as being their guest is mentally and physically exhausting at the best of times. So if I'm still ill I'm going to my Mum's and he's going to his parents. I'm in no fit state to fend of his Mum's compulsive hospitality and assorted neuroses!
. The happiest Xmases I've had were when Mr Ex and I went to Devon or Cornwall for the holiday and locked ourselves away from all the madness.
Do you know Dingbat - that sounds absolutely DIVINE!!! Wonder if I can persuade DH to do that next year??????:scratchchin:
Yes, we got married on 27 December 2004 so we didn't have a Christmas that year, just had dinner together at home :smile:
I am very tempted to this year and have been before. I really want to have Christmas where it is just the two of us but my in laws are just assuming we are going there. They live so close to us that if we didn't go round then they'd come and bang on the door. I'm really hoping for boxing day to be just us though.
Everyone seems to want a piece of us every Christmas and this year it is even worse. I think that is because we are applying to move to Australia and if everything goes to plan we will be there at the end of next year so this is likely to be our last Christmas in the UK for a while.
Next year I will definately have Christmas on our own. The thought of spending this year with my SIL is starting to wind me up already.
I so want to do this this year, Im just not in the mood for it at all. If it wasn't for Alex I would be cancelling it all together but I feel I have to make an effort for him as hes really excited already.
I don't want guests I know that much but my Mum has assumed we're going to hers. I know I'm going to find it difficult and just don't know what to do tbh.
My mum threatened to cancel it every year to make us behave. Never actually happened tho.
We had Xmas on our own, just the 3 of us last year but Mr C got taken into hospital on Xmas day so it was just me and Billy. Boo hoo.
I ended up going to my Mom's for tea and Mr C's parents came round to see if we were OK when I got back home.
This year we're having dinner at the next door neighbours. They have 3 kids so it will be a big knees up. I'm sure my Mom, Step-Dad, brother, sister, BIL and niece will come up at some point too as we all live in the same road!
I love big family Xmases though.
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