feel like crap!!

[dora the ex...]

well after the trying day and the problems we are having with amy and feeding last night i recieved 2 phone calls...MIL&SIL !!
asking how amy was when i explained the same thing to them both they started instead of comforting words i got a lecture of both of them saying that im bad for leaving her suffering so long and that if i breastfed with them none of this would of happened...i feel so sad now maybe if i had breastfed none of my babies would of been ill and maybe it is my fault all this is happening... :huh: why would they do this...i sat crying all night and im the same this morning hubby is gonna ring them and have a doo at them but its not gonna stop me feeling so crap..i wish i had breast fed now but there is nothing i can do to turn the clock back so many years..
thank you for reading...x

[Julesb]

Dora, i'm sorry you are feeling so down.
It is not your fault your LO is ill,babies get stuff going wrong with them all the time.
Your MIL and SIL should never have said what they did to you.
What you obviously need right now is a big hug and lots of support, not misguided and freaking wrong critiscism.
I really hope your DH contacts them to tell them how crap they have been.
Don't even get me started on breast is best stuff because i couldn't feed my baby and obviously felt crap about it,but i'm not going to punish myself or let any other bugger do it for the rest of my life.

I hope Amy is feeling a little better today and hopefully the milk will start to sort things out for you all.

Sending you a big hug.xx

[Princess Fiona]

OMG I am fuming at your MIL and SIL :hissyfit:

What a STOOPID and inconsiderate thing to say to you and IMO completley ridiculous statement.

Ignore them Dora, you're doing a grand job and its got naff all to do with whether you bf or bottlefed your LO's!!

Lucy was bf for 5.5 and she's had her share of colds, flu's bugs etc. My friends LO was bf for 15 months and she has very bad astma (to the point where she is 3 yrs old and has to use a nebulizer twice a day!) and exzema (to the point her arms and legs are often bandaged up) both of which are supposed to be lessened if you bf! :roll:

[Damsella]

Sorry to hear that dora :-(

Babies can have problems for all sorts of reasons, not just because they weren't breastfed. Even breastfed babies can have intolerances. Your MIL and your SIL should BUTT THE HELL OUT!!! :angry:

(I have moved this to Parenting Chat.)

[Sweetie Pie]

I don't usually post in here but saw your post from LIG and had to reply!!

Firstly, Dora big hugs :hugs: what an awful thing for your MIL & SIL to say to you!!

I don't have kids myself but as the others have said, i also know people who have BF their kids and they have had all sorts of problems so i don't agree that all this is down to you not BFing and can't believe they actually had the nerve to say that to you!! :argue: :x Try not to let their stupid comments upset you hun, it's clear from your posts around the board that you are a fantastic mom and don't need any "useful" :roll: input from the likes of those two!!

I hope you and your LO are feeling a bit better today :hugs:

[Our lass]

Dora, you mustn't feel guilty about Amy being ill, it isn't your fault and it certainly isn't your MiL's/SiL's place to tell you that it is. They should be offering you comfort and support when you're having difficulties, not laying the blame on you.
I know plenty of people who have breastfed their children and they've been a lot more sickly than my bottlefed children so please don't listen to this criticism. It's rubbish.

[Angie]

Tell them to naff off Dora, I can't believe they were so insensitive :x

It is not your fault. My son was bf for 6.5 months (with the odd bottle of formula) and no he hasn't really been ill much (touch wood). But equally, my friend is still exclusively bf her twins at 11 months and they've been ill much more frequently. So it's just down to the individual child.

Hope you and Amy are happier and healthier today x :hugs:

[Calamity]

Tell them to naff off Dora, I can't believe they were so insensitive :x

It is not your fault. My son was bf for 6.5 months (with the odd bottle of formula) and no he hasn't really been ill much (touch wood). But equally, my friend is still exclusively bf her twins at 11 months and they've been ill much more frequently. So it's just down to the individual child.

Hope you and Amy are happier and healthier today x :hugs:

Precisely, every child is different. Really sorry that you have been made to feel so down Dora. You are in no way to blame for the children being poorly, it's just one of those things.

Like I was advised yesterday, go and get yourself a big bar of :choc: and be happy in the knowledge that you are a brilliant mother :wik:

J.x

[dora the ex...]

thank you all for your kind words our lass thanks for the pm hun :wik: x

ETA; read my new post :-( :no:
http://www.damsels.org/forum/viewtopic.php?p=24768#24768

[tekkencat]

Not much more i can add to what the ladies above have said - i do hop it sorts itself out soon for you - you deserve a break -
If you fancy escaping the house let me know - it could do you good to vent

TC
xx

eta - aghhhhhhhhh at your other post keep strong hon!!

[Elle Driver]

:shock::shock::shock:

I can't believe the cheek!!!

dont let them get you down Dora, as Mrs D has just said, all bubbas get their fair share of colds. I have to add too, that my stepsister bf her two kids for nearly 2 years each of them and they are nearly always full of cold :roll: I bf ruby for 5 days or so and she's had probably 2 or 3 in as many years so :no: dont believe the hype!

hugs honey. its hard enough this motherhood malarky without interfering busy bodys adding their two pennies worth.

You are doing a fab job and dont let anyone tell you any differently!

PVxx

[dora the ex...]

aww thank you hubby rang them both and gave them a right ding dong...so fecked off with it... and if i hear again
"its her teeth" i teel ya im gonna flip :oops: