Are you facebook "friends" with your parents?

[NoTimer]

I am with my MIL (after months of duress) but not with my own parents. I like my own space and life etc and hate it when I feel they know my every move. However, am starting to feel guilty.

(I'm 34 btw, although I think that makes me sound 18! Apart from the MIL bit maybe)!

Are you FB friends or not?

[Nettie]

Well, there's only my Dad now and he never uses computers. I am, however, facebook friends with my ILs.

[Muppetgal]

yes, and it's an invaluable way for my mother and I to stay in touch. We play scrabble through facebook too...which we both love being able to do so many many miles apart.

If my dad were on facebook, he'd most certainly be in my list too. I have a few aunties on facebook too.

[Hellina]

yes but she no longer goes on it, dh and i are friends with MIL but dh keeps going on at her to change her profile pic, its a tad provocative for his liking!

[tigger71]

Gosh yes! I am very close to my mum and we speak every day so of course I am also friends with her on Facebook (plus we play Scrabble so I have to be) I no doubt would be friends with my dad too if he were still with us and on it! Am also friends with both my brothers, one SIL (the other isn't on it), my auntie and uncle in the US, my niece and several cousins. I love having family on there - it's an easy way to keep up with their news (one of my cousins in the US for example just had a baby girl and was able to see pics really quickly as she posted them on there.....)

xx

[IncyWincySpider]

No, but only because they don't use it.

[Daisy66]

No.

I know my mum is on facebook as I've seen her as a mutual friend to some cousins of mine. She's not asked to be my friend and I've not invited her. To be honest, I like it that way :oops: I do love my mum; just don't need to be her fb friend :smile:

Daisy

[guinness]

:nod: and my stepdad

[lazymummy]

No.

I know my mum is on facebook as I've seen her as a mutual friend to some cousins of mine. She's not asked to be my friend and I've not invited her. To be honest, I like it that way :oops: I do love my mum; just don't need to be her fb friend :smile:

Daisy

WSS!

[gizamojo]

Yes with my mum and MIL but to be honest they are both very rarely on it xxx

[Waxy Bean]

No, they're not on it though! I am friends with all of aunts and uncles though, and find it very odd when they reply to my posts!

[Frosta]

Yes, I am friends with my Mom and Step Dad. My Mom is always on it but my Step Dad not so much. I've got nothing to hide. They know I smoke and swear, they know I fall over and flash my pants when I'm drunk, Facebook just adds to the embarrassment in the morning when I (and they) see the pics! (I am 31).

My brother is 18 and has deleted my Mom cause she isnt allowed to know his business. He didnt think it was cool that she kept commenting on his status. lol. He's still friends with me and our sister on there, he just deletes what we write. lol.

[Hello Kitty]

I am FB friends with my daddy and he is 79 :old:

He doesn't go on that often to post things himself, but he and my mum find it useful for keeping up with family photos.

In spite of his age he still loves his gadgets!

[Katiekipper]

No. My Mum doesn't use the pc and just dictates emails to Dad to type. Dad can email and Google but has no wish to join a social network and my Mil still only owns a 14" portable telly. She certainly doesn't have a pc!!
I'd happily add any of them if they were on it but I can't see any reason why they'd want to join it.

[RealGoneKid]

I am fb friends with my mum but she's rarely on. Dad and MIL don't use it. I am fb friends with my brother & sister and SILs.

[Mrs B]

I am with my mum, but she rarely logs on. It does make me a tad mindful of what I write though!

[Islander]

No, there's only my mum left, she's in her 80s and doesn't have a computer. I don't think I'd like her as a Fb friend though. I've now got SILs, BILs and cousins on there and tbh I'm not particularly comfortable about that, I'm not particularly secretive but I'm not a fan of family members knowing my business.

D x

[calfee]

My parents aren't on it but I am friends with my step FIL - but he's abnormally normal for inlaws :wink: He's only on it once in a while, usually when I ring him to say "there's new photos of the kids on FB!"

[NoTimer]

OMG, loads of you are! I just feel it's a bit like she would be listening in to all my conversations and I don't like that. Kind of like reading a diary, but it's not like I put anything private on there. I just think if so and so has had a baby etc, I'd like to tell her about it, not have her read it. I like having news to chat about. It's not cos I'm not friends with her, or not close, it's just I like to see or hear her saying "oh wow" not "yes I know" when we chat. I don't want her to know about all my friends, without me telling her! Am sensing I'm in the minority though.....!

[moonie]

My dad's on FB and we are friends. I don't see him very often so it's a good way to keep up with what I've been up to and latest photos.

[Skibunny]

Yes to my parents - but then I'm very close with them and have a very boring life.

I wouldn't be friends with my in laws but then I don't really want them knowing what I'm doing in my boring life!

Skibunny
xx

[Peony]

My dad only joined FB because my uncle did. About 50% of my friends are actually family.

[funky_totts]

yes both of mine are on it, my dad rarely goes on but my mum is addicted to bejewlled blitz:lol:she comments on my status' etc if she doens tlike them then I tell her I'll delete her off! its def my escape... I did have fil, BIL, SIL etc but sil kept commenting to me irl on pics etc so deleted them off

[Madwife]

Well, I am still facebook friends with my mum even though she died over 6 months ago :oops: I used to communicate a lot with her on facebook and play farmville etc with her. I am friends with the inlaws too. It doesn't bother me really, I don't think I would say anything publicly on facebook I didn't want them to see anyway. My Dad and Step mum won't touch facebook with a barge pole though.

[bluekat]

I'm facebook friends with my mum and FIL. My Dad doesn't use facebook and my MIL is no longer with us.

It is a great way of sharing pictures with them...though at the moment I can't get any pics to load on FB.

[noo noo]

Yes with my Mum - but I do sometimes hide status updates from her

[NoTimer]

Aw, sorry to hear that Madwife.
That's kind of what got me thinking about it though.... would I regret it and feel horrid if I left it too late?

[flipflop]

My mum is one of my Facebook friends but don't use it much at all and mum says that her pc now 'won't let' her logon so she never uses it.

[squidgell]

My parents aren't on it so no, if they were I probably would be but I doubt they ever will be.

I am, however, friends with both my IL's and DH's Grandad! :teehee:

[NoTimer]

noo noo, how can you do that? Sounds perfect!

[noo noo]

noo noo, how can you do that? Sounds perfect!

When you go to do a stauts update click the little padlock symbol that is next to the "share" button and you can choose who does and does not see particular updates

[lazybones]

I am with my mum, but she hardly goes on it. So its not really an issue. If she was on it all the time, I think I'd have to hide her :teehee: She'd drive me mad trying to talk about it :twisted::oops::lol:

My cousin who's 16 really made me laugh one time, she had a status update with loads of swearing in. Within 10 minutes it had been changed to 'wow. I should really remember I am friends with my dad on facebook' :lol::lol:

I'm friends with all my aunties, too. :nod:

[NoTimer]

noo noo, that's brilliant! Thank you!

I assume that hides the whole post - as in, if my sister commented on my status but I'd hidden it, would it still be hidden?

[Maudie]

Yes - Just with my Mum though. Dad isn't on it and my Mum doesn't really get it. She likes looking at my pictures but that is about it

[Elvisola]

I had to restrict access to my photos as my stepdad was driving me nuts to friend him on Facebook.

Lets just say I really didnt need him to see some of the pictures I have been tagged in from various girly holidays in my wilder days!!

[Ruby]

Yes. Although I had to threaten to unfriend my Dad if he sent me another Farmville request.

[PoppyHoney]

Nope, my mother comments on just about everything else in my life, I don't need her to see pictures of me being drunk and disorderly too :lol:

[*kate*]

No chance. I'd be embarrassed that people I knew would think I had the same views.

[stacey86]

Yes, although mum doesn't really come on to fb at all :happyno:
I speak with my dad and step-mum alot as they live in Cyprus and this is a great way to stay in touch with them, I am very close to my dad :lurve:

[Daisy66]

No chance. I'd be embarrassed that people I knew would think I had the same views.

:lol:

[Franny]

I am with my parents, sister, brother-in-law and sister-in-law and various cousins but I don't have my parents-in-law because they are a bit technophobic but, if they joined, I would add them. I say nothing naughty on there. i DID make a joke about better behave myself when my mum added me but then she just laughed and said no, she'd better behave. :lol:

[violet wallop]

Nope. Nor would I want to be!

[Vienna]

Yes I'm friends with my dad on there and more or less all my family.

It doesn't bother me what my dad sees to be honest.

[Bluebabe75]

No, but they're not on FB anyway - if they were, I'd probably be friends with them :nod:

There's no way my Mum would be able to work it though - she can only send me an email if I send her one to reply to :lol:

ETA - I am FB friends with my sister, BIL, DH's brothers and their wives and assorted nieces and nephews.

[~Twiggy~]

yes just as they have become pc members lol

[Cat Queen]

I am with my dad, and he puts random things on like my status which is nothing to do with the actual status, one the other week I had put 'Saturday...was wine and good company' and my dad randomly put 'XX (my name) is Jack still ill, have you gone to work' He is still getting used to FB!!

[-x-greeneyes-x-]

:happyno: There not on facebook thankfully however my aunts and Uncle are and they always comment on my photos and status and it always gets back to my Grandparents who like to comment on it :doh::lol::oops:

[DKNI]

I am with my mum and would really rather not be as its weird when she is in my house on fb and I am sitting next to her!
Unfortunately I couldn't ignore as she would have taken a huff :lol:

[Julius]

Yes I'm friends with my dad on there and more or less all my family.

It doesn't bother me what my dad sees to be honest.
WSS

My dad never comments on anything, he just uses it to look at holiday photos etc from us all. My mum isnt on it, but I have OHs mum, aunts etc.

[WiCkEd_WeNcH]

Yes, also my inlaws and my step mother. I have my nana on my friends list which is good as I don't see her that often so it's the best way to keep in touch

[spidey]

No, the Daily Mail says FB is the work of the devil so my Mum won't go near it. The DM has it's uses at times :lol:.

I have got an uncle, (who rarely uses it) a niece and nephew (who have both blocked me and my brother, their dad, from seeing their wall....I think it was when we both commented on my niece swearing!),one of my brothers, his wife, my sister, a BIL and endless cousins on it. It amuses me to tell my mum news on my cousins and she's going ''How the hell do you know that?' I just tap my nose knowlingly and say my spies have told me.

[girlskull]

No. Both are on Facebook but I've never felt any need to add them and vice versa.

I message family members who live far away but, again, have never felt any need to add them as friends.

[Zia]

Yes.

[One Sock]

I am with my Mum. I don't use FB that much apart from for uploading photos, which I know she always loves to see.

[ChelseaHarvey]

Yes i am with OHs mum but i dont really speak to her on there, i know when she goes on Fb though she goes on my profile to see what i have been up to look at any recent piccies that have been uploaded

OHs dad is not on FB

My mum is but doesnt go on there really & i dont think im friends with my dad on there

[gemz_scottie]

yes i am..was my mum who got me onto FB to begin with.

We have a giggle all the time on it..BUT she does live overseas..i never go on to FB anyhoo to badmouth anyone or have dodgy photos that i worry she will see...
DH mum is on it too...but she doesn't really know how to work.
DH DESPISES FB or any forum etc..probably cos he hasn't a clue how to use it..lol

I find FB a good place to have a giggle and not be too serious.

xx

[dustbin]

With my Dad and Aunt but my Mum and in-laws are all technophobes! I am not that active on facebook really and certainly don't feel I'm posting anything I wouldn't share with them really....

[Helski]

Yes I am, and my ILs too.

We all live so far apart and it's the easiest way to share photos.

[thirzasmum]

umm nope but they are in their 80s and haven't got internet access LOL!

[DillyDally]

No - my parents are in their eighties, and don't see the point of Facebook. Mind you, I'm 46 and feel the same way most of the time :lol: They do have internet access, my dad checks his emails once a fortnight :sigh: so no point trying to keep in touch that way, and I have a feeling that even if my mum wanted to browse on the internet, my dad would hover over her all the time and make her flustered :sigh:

[Gojira]

Nope they are not on it. Neither is Mr G. The kids are -but I'm not friends with them either. Deliberately so.

[choccy eating monster]

Yes, just my Mum. My Dad doesn't have a pc and admits he wouldn't know how to turn it on. Not my inlaws, because they are not on facebook. If they were, I would not have them as friends. I can be a bit risque sometimes on the book and they are very straight-laced. My sis in law is a friend on their though.

[Adifferentnutty mumof3]

I am with Mother. Dad is no Silver Surfer.

[Alabama]

I am with both, and MIL/FIL although Dad never uses it, Mum is quite unshockable and MIL/FIL are too - not that I often have anything shocking to say :lol:. If it was so personal that I wouldn't want my parents to see it then I wouldn't be putting it on the internet for anyone else to see!

[VivB]

I am with my mum but she doesnt really go on there anymore. I have my dd1 and ds's 2 and 3 in my friends lists ,my dd has free internet so when she runs out of texts she just pms me or writes on my wall !!

[Twistarella]

No but they stalk me on Twitter because they haven't got anything better to do with their evenings :lol:

[bubblewrap]

My parents aren't on there.

I have my ex DHs grandad, dad, brother and sister on there but they're all on limited profile.

[Raspberry beret]

I'm friends with my mum but she doesn't use it much. My dad isn't on there. I'm friends with my god daughter and other people who I don't know that well so I censor what I say to some extent anyway.

[Ladyluck]

Yep I am with my mum. She knows everything anyway.

[Squeaker]

Our parents and DH don't 'do' facebook otherwise I'd be friends with all of them.

It's sad for DH because since facebook some of his friends have lost the art of communication. It's only because I'm facebook friends with one of his college mates that he knows his mate now has a daughter. If neither of us were on facebook we'd be totally clueless.

[Duckie]

I am with my mum and step-dad, who I'm fine with being 'friends' with and my dad, who I'd really rather not be 'friends' with on there. I blocked his girlfriend before he joined in case he 'found' me through her, not that it's difficult I guess :doh: but I never found out if you could block someone before they joined so he did, then added me and I couldn't really not accept :happyno:. I guess it is good for him to see pics of the kids etc as he does live 4hrs away so doesn't see us very often, which is exactly how I like it :lol:. Can you tell we don't get on??!

I do like being in touch with family on there though - I'm also in touch with my step-bro and his wife, 3 cousins, my Godmother, my sister's Godmother and my sister and I like it that way as we probably wouldn't know what's going on in each other's lives so much without it.

[Duckie]

I am with my mum and step-dad, who I'm fine with being 'friends' with and my dad, who I'd really rather not be 'friends' with on there. I blocked his girlfriend before he joined in case he 'found' me through her, not that it's difficult I guess :doh: but I never found out if you could block someone before they joined so he did, then added me and I couldn't really not accept :happyno:. I guess it is good for him to see pics of the kids etc as he does live 4hrs away so doesn't see us very often, which is exactly how I like it :lol:. Can you tell we don't get on??!

I do like being in touch with family on there though - I'm also in touch with my step-bro and his wife, 3 cousins, my Godmother, my sister's Godmother and my sister and I like it that way as we probably wouldn't know what's going on in each other's lives so much without it.

[DillyDally]

Weirdly, since I posted on this thread, I have noticed that my Dad has joined Facebook and is friends with my DH, but not with me :puzzled: how odd is that???!

[Shazzaspannered]

My parents would have no idea how to use FB but if they did I definitely wouldn't be friends with them on there!

[~Twiggy~]

yes

[Dr Spouse]

My mum isn't on, thankfully, as several of my relatives are, but my brother isn't, which would be the only thing that would persuade her to go on, as clearly he is the Superior Child having managed to produce grandchildren.

We will see whether she cares enough to see pictures of our future child, or indeed whether I cave in and persuade her to go on. But I may just block her from almost everything if she does.

[mrsnozza]

My mum's very computer literate, but thinks Facebook is a load of rubbish.

It wouldn't bother me to have her as a friend though.

Mrs N x

[Adifferentnutty mumof3]

Mother is my FB friend! But she is my RL friend too.

[Abbie]

I'm friends with my Mum. I post a lot of photos on Facebook of the things we've been up to since we moved over here to it's a good way of keeping in touch and for her to keep up with what the girls have been doing

[Chickenlips]

Yep, friends with mum, sister, brothers - all of my family. I sometimes think they only get really see what's going on in our lives on fB, I am a closed book in real life and never get emotional in front of my family, yet FB gives me a weird sense of anonymity, i can express my fears and emotions, they see it, become uncomfortable with it and then ignore it. Not because they don't care, but probably because I am expressing their fear too.

Sorry, bit deep that!

[*SarahR*]

Yes. My Dad doesn't use it, except to share photos with us sometimes, which is fine. My
mum gets on my nerves a bit. I don't mind her being my friend, but she stalks me, every page that I 'like' (e.g. Vicki's Wool Shop) she checks out. I wrote a comment on a fanpage the other day and she knew all about it a hour later when we spoke. And she is friends with lots of my friends too (school and uni friends), which I find irritating.

None of it really matters, I never write anything that I don't want her or anyone else
to see, I just find it a bit suffocating. I know she means well
and is being friendly, but the intensity with which she seems
to follow my life on fb is too much!

[Princess Fiona]

No but thats because none of them are on FB! I am friends with my Step Dad, though.

[seashell]

Yes with my Mum - but I do sometimes hide status updates from her

This is the thing, you could set it so that immediate family like mums etc dont see your status updates, then it would save any embarrassment and they wouldnt feel hurt because they wouldnt know, as you say its nice to have a bit of personal space sometimes..

[suemarie]

Yes just my dad, allthough he never really uses FB on a day to day basis.

[emma978]

I am friend of my family and my families family aswell although I hate that, but I can not ignore their requestion... :(

[littlerose12345]

No, my parents aren't of FB

[lady_isa]

Think my mum would have joined facebook if it had been going before she died, as she was on Bebo. So yes would be friends with her in that case.

My dad has no clue about computer let along facebook! If he wants something from internet he phones and ask either DH or I to look up such and such on that internet/computer thingie. lol

[NoTimer]

I know this is an old thread, but having started it, I wanted to finish it. Mum died from bowel cancer on Monday. I am so pleased that people on here helped me see that I did want to be facebook friends with her. In the last few months, it was so nice to be in such close contact, and you people helped me work through my guilt and frustration before her diagnosis. I'm not going to read back through this thread, I just wanted to thank you. And don't forget to appreciate your Mum's, ladies. x

[Adelelee]

Oh NoTimer I am so so sorry to hear this:higgies::higgies:

[Tekkencat]

oh gosh notimer - so so sorry

i shredded my mum a few months ago (irl not fb as she hasnt got a clue) - but we have since chatted/cried and tried to find a way forward - im glad you could do that :higgies:

[Moffgal]

So sorry to hear this Notimer, my thoughts are with you xx

My mum is not in the least bit interested inFB but we are fortunate to have a fantastic relationship, and long may it continue.

God bless to you all xx

[*SarahR*]

Thinking of you NoTimer xxx

[Tessy]

I'm so sorry:higgies:

[Elle Driver]

Oh I'm so, so sorry No Timer. Take care of yourself and may your mum rest in peace :hugs:

[Becci]

So sorry No Timer.. I'm with Moffgal.. My parents aren't on FB and even if they were, I wouldn't be "friends" with them - there are too many photos that I wouldn't want them to see.

However, I have a fab relationship with my parents and talk to them on the phone at least once a day (my brother's chin almost hit the floor when I told him that). They also live about 2 miles up the road and I see them once-twice a week.

[Zia]

I'm so sorry No Timer.

[Jenevieve]

So sorry to hear this Notimer, my thoughts are with you xx

My mum is not in the least bit interested inFB but we are fortunate to have a fantastic relationship, and long may it continue.

God bless to you all xx

WSS

:higgies: