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Chocolate Lips
24-04-2006, 10:14am
...are you planning to have anymore bambinos? and if so when?
Hello Kitty
24-04-2006, 10:21am
This is very much in the forefront of my mind. I am planning on having another. We have decided to wait until G is three though, partly because we are enjoying time alone with her but also because I need to psych myself up for pregnancy again after last time :-(
Calamity
24-04-2006, 10:22am
If you'd asked me this question yesterday I'd definately have said NO WAY HOSE' :no: :no: :no: :no: :no: :no:
But, yes I'm planning on having just the one more. We had been talking about TTC at the end of this summer so that by the time the new baby arrives Lorna will be almost 3.
That would suit is financially as we wouldn't have to pay for 2 lots of nursery fees, Lorna would get a certain amount free from council funding. Lorna would also be able to do most things for herself by this age and fingers crossed would be potty trained too but if not, it's not such a hassel. At least she's be able to feed herself and help mummy a bit more with the new baby.
J.x
bluekat
24-04-2006, 10:33am
What Jane said....
We're planning on trying towards the end of summer and hopefully have a bub by the time Lexie is just about 3 or just turned 3. I blow hot and cold over the whole thing though.
If it doesn't happen for any reason, I'll be sad but I definitely hit the jackpot with Lexie so I'll count my blessings.
I've got so many mates just now who've recently popped or just about to that it's hard not to be broody.
BKx
Mad Madam Mim
24-04-2006, 10:34am
I hope so, if I'm lucky enough. It won't be for a while though for a variety of reasons. Maybe a couple of years time.
*Fallen Angel*
24-04-2006, 10:38am
Probably not until Jess is in school.
I want another when Liam is about three. So that he'll be old enough to walk confidently when I'm pregnant (can't be carrying him around with SPD!), do quite a bit for himself and if I have a bambino who is up 5 times a night I don't have to feel guilty that lack of sleep will be affecting Liam's performance at school (if I had put off another baby for longer than that).
So at the moment I reckon we'll be ttc again in 13 months time, when Liam turns two.
Well obviously you know my answer to this :laff:
We always wanted two (well, I quite like the idea of three but DH is against it :-( and now we're going to have one of each I won't have any powerful arguments....)
Like others have said, I wanted to wait until I knew I could cope with a bump and a baby. I had bad SPD with James (though it's not so bad this time round) and the thought of carrying a non mobile or tottery baby around with that was enough to put me off. James will be starting nursery in January (if we've moved by then) and I'm off work until April next year :shock: so we'll all get settled in to the new routine before I go back to work (well that's the theory!).
The thing is, I'm not sure there's ever a "right" time - children are constantly changing and whilst James is quite independent at the moment I'm sure there's a new set of challenges around the corner, baby or no baby. I guess we all just adapt and work through whatever decision we make
Right, going to stop waffling and go shower now :bath: :laff:
Shamu
;-)
racqy-rooster
24-04-2006, 11:35am
No way hose.
I am very happy with Ellis and I do not even think about having another one. TBH I don't even get broody.
I was so put off by having Ellis, I don't think I could even contempalte doing it again. I know they say you never have 2 births the same, but I am not going to take a chance.
Mind you I am 28 now, so maybe when I hit the big 30 I will change my mind :roll:
Pancake01
24-04-2006, 11:45am
I would love another one - but not yet! I too want Maisie to be about 3 when a new baby comes along.
I think I'd like another girl, but only because I know nothing about boys.
~Twiggy~
24-04-2006, 11:56am
Not really no.
Unless I fall pregnant again.
Superkat
24-04-2006, 12:24pm
Definitley, but not too soon. I went through a phase when Toby was about 4-7 months when I was dying to start ttc but oh was dead against ever having another one. Hes come round a bit now and we have decided when Toby is about four we will have another. I want to do midwifey at uni, just waiting to find out if I have got in, so I have it all planned out, do my three years training, work long enough to get a half decent maternity package and then hopefully get pg quicky, i have PCOS so it will probably take a while.
Also Im only 21 so I think its probably better to wait until toby is a bit older, two kids at 22 I think would have been a bit much for me! :shock:
Cailín Deas
24-04-2006, 12:28pm
Not if you paid me 10 million pounds. :laff:
I'm serious.
Much as I utterly adore her, Aoife has been so much of a handful, I know I could never manage another one. I was talking to someone about this the other day - she had 4 kids but said that had the last one been her firstborn, she would never have had another.
Luck of the draw, I guess but not for me.
Annie Goolahey
24-04-2006, 01:26pm
Yes, I think so.
Would love to TTC now, but the timing is really pants for a number of reasons. I want to really enjoy my next pregnancy, so I'm thinking next year. J will be three, in nursery and we will be more financially sound (I hope)
Littlejojo
24-04-2006, 01:26pm
i will be trying in exactly 5 weeks time :wik: , after our wedding
Adelelee
24-04-2006, 01:32pm
Had you asked me in December I would have probably said no :laff: :laff: :laff: But mother nature decided otherwise (thank god!!) for me :laff: :laff:
Princess Fiona
24-04-2006, 01:51pm
I can honestly say i really don't know anymore :(
If this had been asked a month ago i'd have said YES right away. We've been ttc for 6 months with no luck and i'm so broody its untrue (have been since Lu was born tbh). I keeping falling to pieces every time i see a pregnant person (which is all the time atm beens as MOST of my friends and my step mum are all pregnant :roll: :-( ) and i've been watching Discovery Health again non-stop just so i can cry at the births (sad i know).
However the current situation me and DH are in we've decided its best to leave it for a while, which is REALLY gutting as we BOTH wanted to have our children close together which is why we started ttc when Lu was 10 months (would have been earlier if a holiday hadn't gotten in the way of our plans!)
So atm, i'd say DUNNO!! :huh:
polkadotgirl
24-04-2006, 02:11pm
Yep, I'd love to have another one and want to start trying before too long because I'm 34 and don't know how long it will take to get pregnant. Having said that, I'd like to shift some of my weight before we start ttc and get settled in our new house (if we ever manage to exchange contracts.) Anyway, hopefully start trying when burrito boy is about one.
What about you Joanna are you planning more?
Chocolate Lips
24-04-2006, 02:17pm
What about you Joanna are you planning more?
Oh yes!
We plan to start trying for Baby No 2 in September when Isabel is 9 months old :shock: although now reading some of the above posts, I think I want to change my mind :laff:
OH is keen for us to have another one rather quickly.
Blonde Girl
24-04-2006, 02:23pm
I definitely want at least one more, am planning on waiting until at least Oct/Nov this year as then Dan will be over 3 when new baby is around and will be at pre-school from next September so no nursery fees, also will have a few hours at home on my own with new baby and will *hopefully* then will be able to concentrate on Dan when he gets home from school.
spritzer
24-04-2006, 02:42pm
Yup, we'll definitely have another one.
Initially we thought of starting the TTC process in Nov last year when Xander was just over 1 thinking that a 2 year gap would be nice. However, I really wasn't ready to do that so it got put back to April (ie now) but I have put it back again to June as we are on holiday in May and my best friend is getting married in June and I want to enjoy the hen and the wedding and would like at least some summer before we start. But, Mr S has said no more delays after that :ellie: so I guess we'll start some time in June - gulp :shock:
I want to time No 2 around Xander so I can make it easiest for him and me to have a new arrival and I think that looks like a gap of around 2.5 years but obviously nature decides the actual gap so I suppose I think that 2.5 years is the minimum I could cope with, not necessarily the ideal gap. Time is not hugely on my side so it may take a while and I would like everyone out of nappies by the time I'm 40.
seashell
24-04-2006, 02:42pm
hi, id like at least one more but the thought of labour agaiun scares me as i really felt everything - having just gas and air (but nothing when i was pushing)
We will probably wait until thomas is at least a year old - i have just started the combined pill again now too
ChelseaHarvey
24-04-2006, 02:43pm
I wasnt a few months back i was quite happy to just have the one
Meant that we could spoil alfie not stupid but with 2 you find it much harder dont you!!!! It also woul mean we would have more money and having 2 kids i doubt we could afford to go abroad every year!! & i love my holidays!!!!!!
I have been feeling broody though, after seeing my friends little girl and watching that programme on sat night.......
Im not sure if we will have any more hard to say but if we did id like to do it when alfie started pre scholol next september, that way id have time to myself in the day and be able to sleep and when the baby was here i could sleep when it did, and wouldnt have to worry about entertaining alfie!!! He would also be a t that lovely age where he could help me out as well
i did love being pregnant up til 28 weeks, and do miss the belly etc, but i had 2 nightmare pregnancies a problem with alfie when he was born and i have found him very difficult to i dont know if id want to go through that gain to be honest!!
mrsnozza
24-04-2006, 08:39pm
I hope to have one more.
I was told to wait at least a year before TTC as I had a c-section and ideally would have liked to have been trying again around now. Unfortunately though I've had a couple of abnormal smears, and have had to have treatment to remove some of the cells (today in fact).
So I really need to wait a good few months until my cervix is healed and I have my check up which is 6 months' time. I'm a bit stressed as time's not on my side, but I know I need to sort myself out first.
Mrs N x
moonie
24-04-2006, 08:50pm
I'd love to have another, especially a girl, but OH says we can't afford it yet. 2 of my friends are pregnant and I'm so jealous. Hopefully one day though.
Lois Lane
24-04-2006, 09:02pm
Erm - in about 8 months time all being well!! We had hoped for a 2 year age gap but circumstances didnt allow. We've also been trying for 7 months this time around so it didn't happen as quickly as we hoped but timing is perfect. P will be almost 3 and she starts playschool in January so will have 2 mornings a week at playschool and 2 days a week at nursery.
PoppyHoney
24-04-2006, 09:17pm
In about 6 years time! For about 3 months, when Evie was 3-6 months old, I wanted another one, and would have given anything to be in a position to do that, but then I got hit with PND, Evie got very demanding and it all went downhill.
Now I'm starting midwifery training in september, and I'd like to be married before we have another, so that's at least 4 years, plus I'd like to have a bit of a career first, so I've got to wait. At the moment, Evie is such a delight to look after, I'm just enjoying her!
sersha
25-04-2006, 12:21pm
I still don't feel quite "ready" to have another one just now, but I do want a sibling for Leah, probably start trying towards the end of this year. I want to give her as much time as I can before having another one, without the gap being enormous between them. And another one might mean I have to go back to work part time in order for us to afford it, which all means less time with Leah.
Redsquare
25-04-2006, 12:43pm
If it had just been up to me I would have been pregnant or even had another by now, but DH was adamant he didn't want any more children.
He totally changed his mind a Christmas :ellie: so we're planning on ttc around May/June time.
Nathan will be around 3 which I think is an ideal age gap.
Well we decided in July last year that it would be nice to have another baby and that we should start making a bit of an effort to ttc. in august we went on holiday and came back with more than just Italian wine and tacky souveniors :laff:
Mind you this baby may come out with a bottle of Chianti in its hand I drank so much of the stuff on hols before i knew I was pg.
We had counted on at least a 2 year gap maybe even 2 1/2 but nature decided that 18 months was a better option.
i am clinging firmly to the idea that DS will be too young to be jealous and that after a few weeks he won't remember that he used to have me all to himself.....fingers crossed.
I am really cacking it though at the thought of giving birth again ANY TIME SOON
Andie
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