Hellina
04-10-2006, 01:11pm
I went to matthew's first parents evening last night and i have been really upset ever since. The teacher was lovely and said that he is very very intelligent and has a lot of knowledge. He is well ahead of what his class is doing and has a vocabulary that surprises even them. but... he is not so good on the social side of things.
He sees things as very black and white, right or wrong and gets easily upset if things dont follow the pattern or routine he thinks they should. He will tell the teacher if he sees something isnt right or someone misbehaving. The teacher says he is doing the right thing by telling but that he needs to chill out a bit and let the little things go as he is alienating some of the other children.
She said that because he is so bright and is using word that children of 4 dont normally use that the other kids don't know what he is talking about . He finds it hard to join in with them and can often be found sitting by himself because he has no-one to play with. He would have if he would go and join in but he waits to be asked.
That last part could have been said word for word about me at his age, and up to now if i am honest. i am so upset for my boy, i know how hard it is to feel that way because i have felt like that for as long as i remember. I had two thing i hoped my children wouldnt inherit from me, one was my weight problems and the other my "social leopard" tendancies.
It breaks my heart as i always though he was a happy chatty little boy.I feel to blame now for him being just like me.
He sees things as very black and white, right or wrong and gets easily upset if things dont follow the pattern or routine he thinks they should. He will tell the teacher if he sees something isnt right or someone misbehaving. The teacher says he is doing the right thing by telling but that he needs to chill out a bit and let the little things go as he is alienating some of the other children.
She said that because he is so bright and is using word that children of 4 dont normally use that the other kids don't know what he is talking about . He finds it hard to join in with them and can often be found sitting by himself because he has no-one to play with. He would have if he would go and join in but he waits to be asked.
That last part could have been said word for word about me at his age, and up to now if i am honest. i am so upset for my boy, i know how hard it is to feel that way because i have felt like that for as long as i remember. I had two thing i hoped my children wouldnt inherit from me, one was my weight problems and the other my "social leopard" tendancies.
It breaks my heart as i always though he was a happy chatty little boy.I feel to blame now for him being just like me.