A different question on Parental Responsibility...

[Jamtart]

... didn't want to hijack Miss u's thread and posted here not Legal to get more views/replies!

I have heard that with babies born after a certain date (I think sometime in 2004) the father gets parental responsibilty even if he was never married to the mother. Does anyone know the rules on this? I don't want my ex to have PR. Its very doubtful he would be on the birth certificate (unless he dramatically changes his mind before I register bubs) will this mean he won't get it? or does that not matter?

Thanks!

Lou xx

[Our lass]

Hi Jamtart. Fathers have automatic parental responsibility if the child was born after 01/12/03 regardless of whether they were married to the mother or not but the father would have to be named on the birth certificate. I hope this helps.

[Jamtart]

thanks Our Lass... that was what I was hoping! hmmm makes me think... after all the hassle I went through with my ex and his ex about seeing his DS when he was with me (she was funny about him being with me) and he had PR already :doh: :laff: oh well... I'm not going to tell him :laff:

[Chocolate Lips]

Also he can only be on the birth certificate if he goes with you to register the birth. Me and OH arent married and if he hadnt of come with me, I couldnt have put him down on the certificate as the father, you both have to go.

So if he doesnt want any involvement and doesnt come with you to get bambino registered then tough, he cant go on it anyway, and therefore wil not have any parental responsibility.

[Our lass]

If he's that bothered about being a father he'll apply for it. My ex hasn't. He hasn't seen our kids for 2 years now and they're all the better for it.

[Jamtart]

Thanks for your replies... I just worry incase he changes his mind and starts trying to dictate stuff to me about the baby :roll: its weird as the way he is now is out of character so I never know what he is going to do next :roll:

I know he won't be there to go on the birth cert so glad he cant get PR, and hes too lazy to take me to court for it!

[Superkat]

Nothing to add just wanted to give you a virtual hugs, sounds like your aving a rough time.

(((((hugs)))))

[dora the ex...]

they can loose parental responsability though .... my ex did...and never bothered to take me to court to fight his case he just walked away from my daughter and has never seen her since...his loss

[Jamtart]

aw carrie :grouphug: for you and chloe... I never knew that... men are w*****s aren't they!!! :x

[dora the ex...]

aw carrie :grouphug: for you and chloe... I never knew that... men are w*****s aren't they!!! :x

ahh no worries she know no different really the man i married is a better dad to chloe than he could ever be and i love him for that.. chloe's (sperm donor) walked out when i was pregnant he didnt want me to keep her and i did then we got together again till she just turned 1 then he went off with a friend and i threw him out... :laff: then met my hubby...
he lost parental responsability cause he made no contact for so many months in a row i went to court changed chloes name and he also lost any parental control over her which is fine by me..ive never recieved a penny from him he left me in shed loads of debt (that i still have) and im happier now than i ever could be...anyway sorry to ramble on ur thread JT x

[Jamtart]

Thats ok Carrie - you ramble all you like! In a way its liek my situation... the reason my ex doesn't want anything to do is because I wouldn't abort our baby :x I knew I couldn't do that and he didn't like it... the thing that makes me so mad and upset tho is that we planned this baby and it was initially his idea :no:

[dora the ex...]

Thats ok Carrie - you ramble all you like! In a way its liek my situation... the reason my ex doesn't want anything to do is because I wouldn't abort our baby :x I knew I couldn't do that and he didn't like it... the thing that makes me so mad and upset tho is that we planned this baby and it was initially his idea :no:

aww god...sounds just like my ex... wants the baby then when its put there they run away.. i dont know how they do it and think nothing of it..ANKERS with a capital W
will your ex not change his mind? or would you not want him back?

[Jamtart]

Deep down I think he will change his mind and want to see the baby once its born, but I would never have him back. I still love him, stupid I know :roll: , but I could never forgive him for what he has done to me and the baby! I am in a emotional and financial mess because of him and I could never forgive that!

I think what makes it harder is he has a son he sees all the time now (wasn't allowed much when he was with me) and likes to rub my face in it by pointing out he had his DS overnight and things :-( I think this is why I don't think I could handle having a boy (hence wanting to know the sex so badly so I could prepare emotionally if it was a boy)
But I have seen him with his son and although hes not the best father, he is a loving one and this makes me think he will change his mind once its an actual baby and not a 'bump' plus he was desperate for a girl when we were planning and I was first pregnant he kept saying he hoped it was a girl, so I kinda hope it is... that sounds so bad doesn't it :-(