Feeling so sad

[chuckle_monster]

Hi girlies,

Sorry to sound stupid but I need to write this down. It's been 6 months (yesterday) since OH and I split up and I just don't feel anywhere near as good as I think I should:no: . We are still friends but please don't say it's a bad idea because I don't think either of us would want it any other way. I thought that by now I'd have accepted it, got on with my life etc but none of this has happened. I still get teary days were I just can't imagine life without him and I don't know what I'm going to do:huh: . I have a few really good friends but since I've graduated most uni friends have gone home now but I'm staying (wouldn't really want to go home now!) I can't keep calling the same people/seeing them all the time and I miss so much just having that one person that you didn't need an excuse to call and you could just be with them.

It just makes me :cry: :cry: :cry: to think of what we've lost and I wish with all my heart that he would realise what a mistake he's made. So sorry to write about this again but it's beginning to get on top of me again.

Chuckle xx

[Calamity]

Aww sorry C_M, I don't know what to say but couldn't read and not post honey. Big hugs to you and I hope you feel better about things soon :higgies:

J.x

[Gemiloch]

Aww chuckle, I don't have any advice I'm afraid but wanted to send you some :higgies: as you sound so sad. How long were you together for? Six months doesn't seem like that long to have gotten over someone who was such a big part of your life.

Gemx

[creativezen]

Honey, I know you said no one was to say this, but perhaps it would be better if you did not see him for a while? As long as you keep seeing him, you will be thinking about what you are missing out on, but if you dont see him, even if its just for a couple of months, you will get a chance to get over him a bit better.

Short of that, it just takes time. How long were you together? Charlotte in Sex and the City said it takes half the time of the relationship to get over it properly!

[Valentine]

:hug:

Its really hard when you split and the other person is still in your life. Actually its really hard when you split full stop,

Not any advice im sorry but how about running a nice warm bath with bubbles and candles and relaxing or getting a pizza and watching a movie and being good to yourself, its natural to feel sad.

Take care :hug:

[Toots]

It's been nearly a year since my and my ex split and I still have teary moments! Not as often as I used to but just the odd occasion when I feel lonely. We are still really good friends and, as we have a LO, I see him a couple of times a week for dinner and when he picks her up.

For the first 6 months or so, I just wanted him back. Then he got a new girlfriend which really upset me. We were together for 7 years and even tho I do miss him, and I still do love him (prob always will but it's a different kind of love now) I don't think I'd want to get back with him. It's been too long now and I enjoy my independence too much.

I'm really no good at giving advice but I just wanted to say that 6 months isn't a very long time. Just give it time and you will get over him and, hopefully, be able to continue to be friends. I really hope you do because me and my ex get on so much better now and it's nice that I haven't lost him completely.

I really hope you start to feel better soon

Han
xx

[chuckle_monster]

Thank you everyone, it's so lovely of you all to reply and give your advice. I know that not seeing him for a bit makes sense but unfortunately that isn't really possible. His job means that I have to see him once a week because he works at a place where I have a weekly commitment but it's ok, we don't really have to talk much there! This November would have been our 4 year anniversary so it was a long time, I had planned the future, everything.
Thank you all for the hugs, they are much needed and very much appreciated and I think I'll go and have that bath now. Thanks again,
Chuckle xx

[Jelly]

It's a grieving process, in a way. You're grieving for your lost relationship. It's understandable that you're still sad after 6 months, especially if you had hopes and plans for the future. Don't be so hard on yourself. I think you're doing pretty well FWIW :hug: :flowers:

[chuckle_monster]

Wish I hadn't woken up this morning, I had the most vivid dream that we had got back together last night. All the way through the dream I thought 'this is too good to be true, it must be a dream' but everything was so familiar and the feelings were so strong and real that I was convinced it was real.

I can't even tell you how low my heart sunk when I woke up in bed alone, again. :cry: