Feeling a bit sad... rooting through memory box

[Valentine]

I was at my Nanas earlier (where i lived for a while) and she asked if i would clear out my remaining stuff from my old room. It was a photo album and a memory box that i had deliberatly left there because...A) i didnt want to have it in my house and B) i didnt wnat to deal with the contence.

Anyway Mr.N is out with his mates for a few drinkies so i thought i would sort it out before he sees anything i would rather he didnt.

So far i have found, loads of photos of me and 2 of my ex boyfriends (one of which was very significant and painful), a letter my ex housemate sent me telling me he wanted us to get together, an old phone bill with significant ex's number on (this was in an old box of bills not my memory box!)

i have had a cry and now feel sick. i cant really explain why.

Not much point to this post.

[Valentine]

just wanted to add... have ripped up or screwed up all that stuff and binned it.

[racqy-rooster]

Nay sounds like you did the right thing. Things are going great for you at the moment.

[Tekkencat]

think of it as a friday bonfire just a bit early !!

[Valentine]

yeah... pity memories (good and bad) are not distroyed by ripping them up eh!

[creativezen]

I did that a while ago. I was moving into my own flat and mum wanted me to either take my stuff out of the attic or bin it and I found an old diary from when I was about 16. I read it and I was in tears. I had honestly forgotten about how incredibly depressed I was at that age. It was so upsetting, all these horrible old feelings came back. So I ripped it up and binned it. I never want to be reminded of feeling like that again.

My friend was disgusted at me, she keeps a diary and thinks its wonderful to go back and read them every now and again. Obviously her teenage years were a bit happier than mine!

[ChelseaHarvey]

Aww hugs to you i hate looking back at things like that!! I still have photos of me with my ex boyfriends and love letters a few and little things they made & got me!! :oops:

I havent seen them for years and the last time i did i did think abotu chucking them away

[Damsella]

Sentimentality is a powerful thing, but it is not necessarily "true". I had an ex that was very sentimental, he wanted us to get back together again, but I knew that there was a reason we broke up in the first place and that he was just unhappy with where he was at the time.

Have a little sigh over your memories of who you were once, then chuck 'em out. You've come much further now.

[Cherrypie]

Have a little sigh over your memories of who you were once, then chuck 'em out. You've come much further now.

Wise words :nod: .

[Valentine]

i know. I hated seeing pictures of me smiling when i knew i was so utterly unhappy and desperate to pretend i wasnt. I too threw my diaries out years ago... im on a zero tollarece with clutter. I just wanted to check that i wasnt being silly for feeling weird. You only have the keepsakes of the good things (or things that look good) my ex was a nasty peice of work and im glad im shot. Mr.N is so different and i am happy with him... which is another reason i binned the stuff... i wouldnt like to come across a collection of things from HIS exs!

[guinness]

good for you, Nay - it's normal to feel weepy when you see things you havent for a while, but glad you got rid of them - i binned my teenage diaries too a few years back when my mum sold our house - like you, I don't ever want to remember how i felt back then,
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have some choccy and you'll feel better!

[littlepinkpiglet]

Well done for realising what they were, what you have now (think about all the positive things you've posted in the last 24 hrs, you sounded so happy) and ditching the things that didn't matter as much.

Wallowing in what was and what could have been is indulgent at the time but it never does us any good in the long run. It makes us dream up things that aren't neccessarily the way they were.

:kiss: and :higgies: Listen to Damsella's wise words.