icclebunny
29-08-2006, 07:19pm
**Please bear with me Im extremely angry and I need to get it out**
There are 2 members of my family that I love very much but at the moment theyre driving me to the point where Im ready to snap with sheer frustration and anger.
We moved in April and everything is upside down at the moment- its a total refurb job. We're pretty much living out of boxes but we have the essentials out - because we have no kitchen the dining room is a makeshift kitchen, because we have no dining room we have to eat in our lounge. The house has 4 bedrooms but Mini IB is still bunking with us but she'll be in her bedroom by the end of the week as we only have the ceiling left to paint. The 2 spare bedrooms are crammed full of stuff that would normally belong in our room or Mini IBs room, or the dining room or the kitchen etc. Half of Mini IBs toys and clothes are downstairs as she has no room at the moment - you get the picture.
Ive been under constant criticism about having my dogs, about the weather going to get worse and they'll be bringing in crap on their feet and Mini IB will be walking soon etc - I clean the floors with bleach or dettol FFS, Im not rehoming them, they arent any trouble - I look after them well, you dont just turf your animals out because you have kids.
Then, apparently my lounge is a mess and I need to get rid of some of my stuff. When they came round today there was a pile of newspapers on the floor because Id only just sorted them out so now Im disorganised and slovenly in their eyes - the recycling box is full so I had nowhere else to put them.
I have no hot water in the kitchen (or what would be the kitchen when its done) so Im a day or so behind washing some food cans - to which the reply is "so thats what that awful smell is" and Im told that contractors will refuse to come round if thats the way I keep my house - the house is clean for crying out loud, but because its not immaculate and Im seemingly sitting on my bum all day I must be a bad person/mother
Ive just had 2 phone calls in which both Im told that Im not eating properly and that I should be putting more pressure on contractors to show up and do the work. Im ready to stop answering the phone and just not go anywhere because Im ready to flip - Ive had enough of the overbearing criticism, I dont want to be told how to run my life. I put Mini IB first, I make sure she's clean, fed, changed, bathed and happy - the housework comes secondary to that.
Im under constant criticism about everything, and it doesnt matter what I say its wrong, it doesnt matter what I do its all wrong. I dont want to fall out with them, but I really cant listen to it anymore - its making me ill.
Anyone have any destressing techniques? Im slowly losing the plot
There are 2 members of my family that I love very much but at the moment theyre driving me to the point where Im ready to snap with sheer frustration and anger.
We moved in April and everything is upside down at the moment- its a total refurb job. We're pretty much living out of boxes but we have the essentials out - because we have no kitchen the dining room is a makeshift kitchen, because we have no dining room we have to eat in our lounge. The house has 4 bedrooms but Mini IB is still bunking with us but she'll be in her bedroom by the end of the week as we only have the ceiling left to paint. The 2 spare bedrooms are crammed full of stuff that would normally belong in our room or Mini IBs room, or the dining room or the kitchen etc. Half of Mini IBs toys and clothes are downstairs as she has no room at the moment - you get the picture.
Ive been under constant criticism about having my dogs, about the weather going to get worse and they'll be bringing in crap on their feet and Mini IB will be walking soon etc - I clean the floors with bleach or dettol FFS, Im not rehoming them, they arent any trouble - I look after them well, you dont just turf your animals out because you have kids.
Then, apparently my lounge is a mess and I need to get rid of some of my stuff. When they came round today there was a pile of newspapers on the floor because Id only just sorted them out so now Im disorganised and slovenly in their eyes - the recycling box is full so I had nowhere else to put them.
I have no hot water in the kitchen (or what would be the kitchen when its done) so Im a day or so behind washing some food cans - to which the reply is "so thats what that awful smell is" and Im told that contractors will refuse to come round if thats the way I keep my house - the house is clean for crying out loud, but because its not immaculate and Im seemingly sitting on my bum all day I must be a bad person/mother
Ive just had 2 phone calls in which both Im told that Im not eating properly and that I should be putting more pressure on contractors to show up and do the work. Im ready to stop answering the phone and just not go anywhere because Im ready to flip - Ive had enough of the overbearing criticism, I dont want to be told how to run my life. I put Mini IB first, I make sure she's clean, fed, changed, bathed and happy - the housework comes secondary to that.
Im under constant criticism about everything, and it doesnt matter what I say its wrong, it doesnt matter what I do its all wrong. I dont want to fall out with them, but I really cant listen to it anymore - its making me ill.
Anyone have any destressing techniques? Im slowly losing the plot