How long will the 'I hate Mummy' phase last?

[Lu Lu]

It's upsetting me now. I know they all go through phases but J has now started to give me evil looks and not only will he not let me put him to bed at night, he won't let me get him up in the mornings either.

Makes me sad :sigh:

is there anything I can do?

Is this because I work?

[Chocolate Lips]

Oh poor you. :higgies: How old is he?

I haven't any advice as Isabel has never gone through anything like this.

[Ruby]

My son has gone through a few phases of this. When I when back to work both times. I think it's that they can't handle a change so they're as nasty as possible to you as a way of testing just how unconditional you are. They do it to you exactly because you're 'the safe one' sometimes.

Basically we didn't tolerate it at all. Completely ignored it and he got put to bed/got up by whoever's turn it was. We made sure he got lots of one-on-one time too. Something like swimming, maybe, at the weekend.

It's a phase. Everything's a phase. And it will pass.

[Tigerstripes]

Daniel does this quite regularly, very often with daddy but sometimes with me too. Like Ruby says it is often if things change, I started going to night school a few months back and he wouldnt have anything to do with me the day after.

We generally ignore it too and just do things in our turn, if he cries he cries and gets ignored.

I know it is really hard to handle and very upsetting at times :hug: but it is just a phase. It will stop and probably start again loads of times until they are old enough to understand.

[Lu Lu]

Well, I tried to persevere tonight and DH stayed away whilst I tried to give him his milk but he was having none of it!

He did sit on me without having a complete breakdown, but wouldn't have any milk, kept pushing it away.

So in the end I got DH to give it to him coz I don't want him to go to bed without his milk.

Perhaps that's wrong and he needs to learn....