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Is anyone else :zombie: ? It's really early days but I am unbelievably tired! I do remember being tired last time but P is so full of beans atm she totally zapps my energy! Not quite sure how I will entertain her this weekend when all I want to do is snooze!!!!
One word for you girly - husband. Get him to help out as much as he can. As much as I whinge about DH, he has helped with B enormously while I've just been a crap mummy lying on the sofa most of the time. I do think in this aspect as well, we're luckier to be at work full-time than having to cope with toddlers at home - I would have died if I'd had to watch B all day rather than my sitting at a desk!
I'd agree with Ski. DH mucking in is the key.
Though, unfortunately, I've no idea how to do it. DH was an angel first time round, full of concern, fussing round me, cooking for me, making sure I put my feet up etc. etc.
Second time round he was a right selfish @rsehole. Sorry, but can't think of a better way of describing it. I think the thing is that 1st time round, all that concern costs them nothing - making the odd cup of tea while you put your feet up is no hassle for them. 2nd time round, you can't put your feet up unless they look after offspring one for you. Unfortunately, DH's angelic concern didn't quite stretch to actually getting off his bum, so 2nd time round there was a lot of "I'm tired too, you know. Anyway, I don't remember you being tired when you were pg with Helena." (wtf? Talk about selective amnesia!)
I'm sure you have yours better trained, though!
In the very early stages I used to lie on the floor dying and Dylan ised to just come and sit on top of me and play. I really thought I might die some days :laff:
On the odd occassion when i was actually sick Dylan would follow me to the toilet and he would a) :laff: , b) make the same noises as me or c) would hold my hair out of the way. This almost reduced me to a quicering wreck as I felt so bad that he was seeing all this.
2nd trimester got better but now toward the end its hard again. He is great at walking and climbing up and down the stairs but he likes to sit on my belly or invariably stick his elbow in it which can be really painfuly, sometimes tear inducing.
All i would say is rest when you can and get your DH to help you as much as possible in the mornings/evenings and weekends.
If you have to take the day off work as you feel poorly still take P to the daycare and then you can have a break. I only ever get a break at the weekend and even then its on the rare occassion. i usually end up doing housework or cooking.
BUT its not all bad and you might have a super wonderful easy time of it and only be tired in the inital stages which would be fab.
Oh yes redhed totally agree with you.
DH is astounded that I cannot get a months worth of nappies, 8 months pg bump and a toddler in a buggy on and off the bus during the week.
He has also said on numerous occassions that I never MOANED this much the first time round.
Yeah well eejit this time i can't BREATHE!!!!!!
Second word to you is - nap! I've just woken up from a lovely one - if Paige still naps then nap when she does. If I am not at work I shamelessly do it every day. I am less exhausted than in the early days but have still found it hard going and suspect extreme tiredness will hit again soon.
My DH has been an angel - has spring cleaned all the bedrooms today e.g....and with my back condition he has been hoovering and ironing a lot too. Ella has been on board too - she knows mummy can't do some things.
I have moaned a lot more too, it IS hard with a toddler around but you'll be just fine, just do the minimum you can and don't forget to say no to things iyswim.
First of all :ellie: congratulations :D
It IS hard but you just get on with it. The advice so far is great - get DH involved and TELL him what you want him to do, nap when she does if possible, get your family to help out as much as they can and take EVERY offer of help that comes your way.
James has had more CBeebies days in the last few months than ever before :oops: But is there anything wrong with that????
I've been really lucky this time tbh as I'm only just getting to feel tired and even then managing on about 6 hours sleep most of the time :roll:
Managed to have an hours nap this afternoon when P slept - a VERY rare occasion thesedays. :ellie: I then went into town to buy some more folic acid and a new top and a pair of jeans - my cadbury creme egg habit of late has made these jeans very snug and I already look about 6 months gone!!
Daddy is putting P to bed then we have to wash up and I have some baking to do and then I'm hitting the sack.
Thanks for all the advice!
Yep I would echo everything everyone has said about getting DH to help as MUCH as possible. I am not feeling too bad now but at first I just used to cry with sheer tiredness all day :-( DH was a rock and did loads but as I said not too bad now, it will get better I promise hun!!
Definitely agree with everything that everyone has said.
Husband mucking in at the weekend.
Nap whenever they nap
Lots of Cbeebies :oops: (hey - most of it's educational as well :wik: )
I personally didn't find that I was AS tired as I as first pg but I think that's mostly because I just couldn't be. I had to attend to Hettie for 3 days of the week all on my own and actually doing things with her did "take my mind off" being tired (if that makes sense at all)
Having said that I totally and utterly struggled with the sickness and the headaches and shite quality of sleep that I was getting so I can totally and utterly sympathise.
But like people said to me at the time (and I know it's not a massive consolation - at the time I certainly thought - yeah but what about NOW!!!) it DOES definitely get better!!!!
Good luck chicken, it really does suck.
Lots of sound advice there hun from Katkinn and Shamu !!
It is hard work, but you muddle through.
I know your hubby is a godsend, so lean on him when you can.
Just have to say again Lois - CONGRATULATIONS!! Im so chuft for you xxxx
i know the feeling i am so so so so tired, it is so much hard work running around after Jack and these easter holidays have killed me having beth home from school aswell.
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